Getting rid of our too-many possessions--things we no longer want or need, clothes that don't fit us or our lifestyle, duplicates, things we've tried out but didn't work for us, things we've outgrown, physically or emotionally, hobbies we no longer enjoy--is a long process, for me.
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And no, this tiny set didn't take up much room...but I didn't use or need it. |
Long, but necessary, and freeing. I feel lighter and less encumbered.
How to go
about it can be problematical. Do I try for "the perfect recipient"? Someone who needs or would most appreciate what I'm passing along? (My,
that process will slow you down! It's lovely when we nail it, but it takes a whole lot longer...)
Do I take a box of unused art supplies to school, or our sketchcrawl group, or give them to an artistic friend, or someone with children who enjoy creativity?
(Yes, sometimes
all of the above! I've got a box hatching now for the sketchcrawl artists...)
Sometimes we take a box of miscellaneous things to our family gatherings and hope they'll fill a need; housewares, bedding, tools, clothing. My youngest godchild looked stunning in a dress that just didn't work for me--too short, too clingy...
Sometimes--frequently!--we take things to a charity resale shop that will even unload the car for us if asked. It feels good to benefit them while clearing out our space so we can breathe, and so there's room in closets and drawers. Today, a box of miscellaneous things (we needed 4 thermoses...why?), last week a few books...
A heavy bag of clothes I don't wear went there recently; my closet already feels roomier, and I thought I had DONE this not long ago...
I hate shopping, so buy online most often...and if I'm paying attention, return things that don't work in a timely manner! Guess I didn't need those after all...
Then there's the jewelry I've made when I was in my polymer clay phase...I've sold some, given away some, some is in my
Etsy store, and I
still have three big glass-topped display cases from when a shop in town carried my work...they closed a couple of years ago...
Pottery supplies...I no longer have access to a kiln, so Joseph took those to the basement for me. I haven't quite given up on that one! Pottery is practical alchemy, and I love it.
But then there's the table loom in the attic...a friend wanted it but we haven't made connections. In two years...
Fabric I'll never sew...happily much of that is perfect for my beloved niece
Jenny Hearn, who supplements her income by sewing for RenFaires and such, so off more of it goes as we dig through our attic stash...
Books I've read but won't read again, books on hobbies I no longer have time (or interest) for...and oh dear, books I MEANT to read, but didn't. (Books are hardest for me...
Amazon resale, sometimes, giveaway sometimes, but oh dear Lord so many, MANY more...)
Sometimes I sketch those things I've had trouble letting go of--so I still have them in my journal but I don't need them taking up room in my home--OR in my head.
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I still have two of these--I love the M-86 from Hero and the little Noodler's pens, but the middle one has gone to a new home...along with a lot of my other fountain pens... |
I
am keeping those things I use frequently--ink pens that
work, that glide, that make marks I like. The others go.
Watercolor
palettes that I
use and
depend on, and that are light enough to travel.
(At this age, I consider carefully the weight of my tools and equipment, often weighing them on the postal scale before packing for a trip.)
Paint colors I love and that do what I want them to--I'm not tempted by the latest triad, the tricksy new color, the faddish, interference colors and all.
Brushes that feel good in the hand and make the kind of marks my soul needs--like dancing.
Clothes that fit and flatter and suit my elusive and somewhat
quirky "style." COMFORT is essential, at my age, but I don't care to
look like the iconic Walmart shopper (not that I even own a pair of
pajama-bottoms...) I don't care what's in, or proper, or "right for my age"...if I like it and it's comfortable, it stays. If not...
out.
Shoes that don't hurt, feel good, and offer just a bit of support--those
definitely earn a place in my closet. I just recently found some wonderful Japanese sandals that I've just lived in this summer...so more of the others go in the giveaway box!
Kitchen gadgets I actually USE get to stay; kitchen gadgets as "decor" are edging out the door. I have an eclectic collection of old knives that are definitely part of my life as sometime cook. They work, they hold an edge, they feel good in the hand. Others? Long gone.
And of course I need to "have an accord" with my husband; when I'm seriously into giveaway mode, nothing is safe! He recently took a little camera back out of the box..
.ooops...
And yes, sometimes I list on eBay--look for
Katestreasures or click the link. Vintage ink pens, a big watercolor box I haven't used
in an age, reenacting gear I no longer use...
And of course the books and CDs we publish via our small company,
Graphics/Fine Arts Press, like
this one...but then that's a whole different kettle of codfish. We don't
want to run out of those!
But oh
my, listing/selling is a pain in the patoot! Shooting photos, writing
descriptions, packing things up, shipping...happily I am seeing that
light at the end of THAT particular tunnel! (Or so I tell myself...)
We haven't tried Craigslist, but sometimes Freecycle is a good option--list it and they come and take it away!
Except...when they don't show up.
How do I decide what goes and what stays? Sometimes it's easy. Sometimes the recycle bins are full to overflowing. Some things I wonder why I kept them at ALL. Sometimes I put things in the giveaway box, and take them back out, and put them back in, and...
But as a general rule, I keep things that are needful, useful, or that feed my soul.
So
Discardia remains satisfying and feels like progress, however glacial...and Andy Couturier's wonderful
A Different Kind of Luxury continues to inspire me. I
have lived with a whole lot less...and I am aiming for that fresh, open place again.