|This is where we were the other day, and yes, I gave myself permission to stop doing gruntwork and do what I NEEDED to do. I plan on more of that!|
So. Not only are we simplifying our home and possessions, but life and priorities as well. Life is too short, things of real importance deserve our attention, and yes, it's okay to be happy!
I know, that should be obvious to anyone with an ounce of sense, but we do so often do things because we think we should, we must, someone asked, we've committed, we've agreed, SOMEONE ought to, it needs doing, we're responsible...we're trapped. Tra la.
LONG after these things have stopped being fulfilling, long after they really, actually needed doing, long after the time when someone else might be able to do them better, and might want to have the chance, we're still plodding along. Blinders on.
And before long we find our souls occupying a tiny corner of our own lives--all the room that's left to them. I recently posted a link to a site about things happy people do, and it was shared widely. This is good. But when I went to some of the shares I discovered a disturbing number of negative comments by people who resented the idea, who thought anyone who had time must be retired (some of the busiest people I KNOW are retired), who didn't have time to be happy (?!?!)...
It made me sad.
The other day Joseph and I were talking about what I actually WANTED to be doing, right now. (Aside from being Out There, as above!) I told him about a silly little project I've been wanting to do, for months...it doesn't pay, it's not "work," I haven't agreed I'd do it, no contracts involved...it's just fun. But ya know, I don't have time for that.
He said "DO it! No wonder all the gruntwork is sucking the life out of you right now...you need to be doing something else, and you're not letting yourself! Do THAT, and then maybe the Work, capital W, won't feel quite so heavy."
And so soon, I promise myself, I'll do just that. Right after I put in a few more hours on the contracted obligation.
However, ya know, it felt great to write all this down! That too is something I need to do.
I'm a lousy Pollyanna, really...I'm stuck in a couple of jobs that have had glitches, lately, needing far more work than I have energy for, and pretending everything is great is just too damn exhausting.
Nuts to that.
I hope you give yourself permission to do what you really want to, as well.
Meanwhile, there's a helpful series on the Tiny House Blog you may enjoy, on simplifying!